Intimate Relationship – Tending the Field

To be part of an intimate relationship is to be part of something bigger than yourself. The potential of this is enormous – but we do need to learn that the relationship is a living thing which needs to be tended, listened to and nurtured.

To presume that any couple should already know how to do this dance is simply naïve. Nothing can prepare us for it! In fact, the only place in which we can learn how to make true intimacy work is from within a relationship. The work requires that we come closer to ourselves - it’s a simple rule of thumb that the deeper and more open each partner is, the more potential there is in the field of the relationship.

We will need to meet the difficulties that can and will arise, and take responsibility for our end of it. In this we start to explore and discover what actually works for us, expressing needs and drawing boundaries and relinquishing our desire to blame, punish and withhold our love and our sex. We learn the capacity to say both a wholehearted yes and a determined no as needed, gradually developing the art of nourishing relationship so that love can thrive. It may be the most difficult thing we’ve ever done – it may also be the most fulfilling.

This retreat explores the many ways this can play out, opening a deeper understanding of how these reactive cycles function, both in ourselves as individuals, and between us as partners in a relational system.


Fully Residential at Droridge Barn, Dartington, Devon


6pm Wednesday 25th - 5pm Monday 30th August 2021 (Five Days)


Fixed payment £385 - £435 per couple (depending on room)

Suggested Donation  £250 per person (or something between £150 and £350 per person). This covers whole group sessions each morning and evening as well as one couple session with either Fanny or Colin.

In addition, extra individual or couple sessions may be arranged with Fanny and/or Colin during the afternoon. We will ask for donations for these sessions at our usual hourly rates (£45/hour or something between £30 and £60 per hour).

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